I’m learning a lot about anger and resentment at Serenity Lane.
Holding a resentment, I heard, is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. So true. Resentment and anger is spirit poison, and the person toward whom we hold the resentment can be going on about their life, blissfully ignorant of the evil intentions we brew in our hearts. Who does that hurt?
I learned long ago that all resentment and anger stems from one thing: fear.
And fear can only be one of two things: fear of losing something we have or fear of not getting something we want.
I don’t have any control over either of those things. What I get to keep and what I get to lose isn’t really up to me. I only have control over my attitude about it all.
So the old way of dealing with resentment and anger was either to engage and escalate, or to walk away and seethe. But now I know there is a third way. One can take a pause, discover how we’re threatened, and realize that it’s nothing to be afraid of.
Could this really be the key to world peace? First, we’re peaceful within our selves, then our families, then our communities, then our country, then our world?
It all begins with me. Today.